Books That Were Loved in 2022
Books That Were Loved in 2022 Ever since I began to curate books for Pause Library I have become immersed in reading books like never before. It started off as a deep deep love for picture books. They are short, they are infinitely no-nonsense and straight to the point, and gosh they are a celebration […]
Fear and Liberation
Fear and Liberation This week, I was sitting with my fear(s) when I twisted my foot, and it turned out to be a fracture. I resisted this fact with all my might on the first day because how can I sit at home and lie down in bed when I have clients assigned for sessions, […]
Leisure and Loiter to Thrive
Leisure and Loiter to Thrive Accessing leisure can be seen as being “unproductive”. Having to relax and take out time for oneself in any way is often reserved for men “working” “earning bread” and then taking time to relax, individually or in groups. It is often seen as a privilege, it probably is. Queer individuals […]
Feeling Secure or Distant and Anxious? What’s happening in your relationship?
Feeling Secure or Distant and Anxious? What’s happening in your relationship? Social media has taken somewhat of a liking to attachment theory. There are several versions of what attachment theory is and how to use it in the way we understand ourselves, the people we are dating or are in relationships with. A quick google […]
Mindfulness and Masculinity
Mindfulness and Masculinity Masculinity is a huge and strong body of framework. It has lived through ideas, rules and principles for years. The medium it chooses to express itself is through human thoughts. To talk to masculinity has always been about raising one’s voice, stepping out of the body and taking the power it is […]
The Problematic History of Borderline Personality Disorder
The Problematic History of Borderline Personality Disorder The history of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) has been a rather controversial one. Let’s take a trip down memory lane to understand what ‘borderline’ means and the significance it holds in psychiatry and the way the world perceives psychiatry. The term ‘borderline personality’ was coined in the USA, […]
Ethics in Porn?!
Let’s be honest, at some point in our lives, we have tried to learn what real sex looks like. When searching for pornography online you may be using keywords like “lesbian”, “MILF”, “step mum” or “cartoon”, but are you checking for signs what you are watching is ethically produced? They are, by the way, some […]
Let’s talk about sex (and all things we like), baby!
When most people think of kink, they think of Fifty Shades of Grey, fuzzy handcuffs, or, if they’re academically trained, Michel Foucault. The kink may be associated with BDSM in their minds (Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sadism & Masochism). Kink is difficult to characterize as anything other than sexual deviance – yet much […]
History of Female Sexual Dysfunction
In the early 20th century, American psychiatry became increasingly professionalized and medicalized; from the 1930s, it also became significantly psychoanalytic. Psychoanalysis – not Freud’s own writings as much as their elaboration by others – dominated discussions of female sexuality and its problems, frigidity in particular. Too much – or too little – desire figured in […]